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Upsetting news...
Nov. 19th, 2008 12:17 amSo, I was talking to my best friend on the phone yesterday. We hadn't spoken in a couple weeks due to extremely busy schedules on both our parts, so we had a lot to catch up on. Things were going fine until she burst into tears and told me that her parents were - are - separating.
This was shocking, devestating news. She and I have been best friends for fifteen years and I've known her parents for just as long, so they were a big part of my childhood. Having said that, I've always thought they were the perfect couple. Two gorgeous people with two talented, gorgeous children, and a big, beautifully furnished home. A hip, successful freelance script writer and a smokin', devoted gardener, writer, cook, and refurbisher. Collectively, they just seemed like the perfect family, and while I know that no family is perfect, I really believed theirs was. I don't care if that's naive, I did. I thought to myself, 'Man, if I can have a life like theirs, I'll be really happy'.
So I'm upset for two main reasons:
1, My best friend is really hurting over this. No wonder! I mean, I know it isn't easy to watch your parents separate no matter how old you are, but it was really hard for me as well to hear how much pain she's in right now. I know we're getting older and that it's not as easy to find the time to talk at length in the way that we'd like to. I get that our problems and concerns are becoming in complicated in new and sometimes terrifying ways, but it's so hard for me to accept that this is a situation in which I am totally powerless. Realistically, I can't help her. Sure, talking to her is arguably helpful to her in some way, but not in a tangible one. I can't remember any time where I had to listen to her break down without being able to run the short distance to her house and comfort her. It's killing me.
and 2, If a couple I've always viewed as very much in love and in tune with each other can't be happy together, I have trouble imagining how any of us can manage it. Honestly, this is a couple who have been together for over twnty-five years, gone through poverty together, worked through a long distance relationship, and raised two smart, with-it adults that I have so much respect for. I loved how they could sit together on the couch and watch movies together, holding hands, after more than twenty years together. I mean, that's commitment! That they could still feel a desire to sit together and enjoy each other's company after so long was truly inspiring to me. It warmed my heart, made me believe that a relationship like theirs was possible. This view I had of something so pure and real and sweet is now falling apart, and while I know it's only a separation for now, it dosn't bode well for the two of them, and it doesn't make the situation any easier.
I'm starting to doubt that true love, at least in this form, exists. It makes me so angry.
And I'm so worried for my best friend.
<3 Nikki
Think of what you're saying.
You can get it wrong and still you think that it's all right.
Think of what I'm saying,
We can work it out and get it straight, or say good night.
We can work it out...
This was shocking, devestating news. She and I have been best friends for fifteen years and I've known her parents for just as long, so they were a big part of my childhood. Having said that, I've always thought they were the perfect couple. Two gorgeous people with two talented, gorgeous children, and a big, beautifully furnished home. A hip, successful freelance script writer and a smokin', devoted gardener, writer, cook, and refurbisher. Collectively, they just seemed like the perfect family, and while I know that no family is perfect, I really believed theirs was. I don't care if that's naive, I did. I thought to myself, 'Man, if I can have a life like theirs, I'll be really happy'.
So I'm upset for two main reasons:
1, My best friend is really hurting over this. No wonder! I mean, I know it isn't easy to watch your parents separate no matter how old you are, but it was really hard for me as well to hear how much pain she's in right now. I know we're getting older and that it's not as easy to find the time to talk at length in the way that we'd like to. I get that our problems and concerns are becoming in complicated in new and sometimes terrifying ways, but it's so hard for me to accept that this is a situation in which I am totally powerless. Realistically, I can't help her. Sure, talking to her is arguably helpful to her in some way, but not in a tangible one. I can't remember any time where I had to listen to her break down without being able to run the short distance to her house and comfort her. It's killing me.
and 2, If a couple I've always viewed as very much in love and in tune with each other can't be happy together, I have trouble imagining how any of us can manage it. Honestly, this is a couple who have been together for over twnty-five years, gone through poverty together, worked through a long distance relationship, and raised two smart, with-it adults that I have so much respect for. I loved how they could sit together on the couch and watch movies together, holding hands, after more than twenty years together. I mean, that's commitment! That they could still feel a desire to sit together and enjoy each other's company after so long was truly inspiring to me. It warmed my heart, made me believe that a relationship like theirs was possible. This view I had of something so pure and real and sweet is now falling apart, and while I know it's only a separation for now, it dosn't bode well for the two of them, and it doesn't make the situation any easier.
I'm starting to doubt that true love, at least in this form, exists. It makes me so angry.
And I'm so worried for my best friend.
<3 Nikki
Think of what you're saying.
You can get it wrong and still you think that it's all right.
Think of what I'm saying,
We can work it out and get it straight, or say good night.
We can work it out...
